Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
in St. Charles, IL
Couples Therapy is for partners, whether married or unmarried, early in the relationship or many years into the relationship. Couples Therapy is intended for issues relating to a relationship.
You can choose Couples Therapy for strengthening your relationship, managing conflict issues, improving communication, or addressing long standing patterns. There are a variety of reasons for starting Couples Therapy.
I take an attachment approach to Couples Therapy, specifically using Emotionally Focused Therapy. This style goes deeper to understand what is driving the root causes of issues. I help partners to understand their own roles in their couples dynamic and “cycle” pattern so that they are able to not only address difficulties in therapy, but eventually while at home together.
It is a passion of mine to help partners build connection, repair connection, and reconnect throughout their relationship journey. Our partner has the ability to be our best Soothing Connection, if we take time to create the safety and security we need. I very much enjoy helping partners to do this in therapy.
If you have any questions about if Couples Therapy is a good fit for you, please reach out.
*Couples Therapy is offered in person at the St. Charles Office location
At Soothing Connections Counseling, we specialize in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) to help partners strengthen their bond, resolve conflicts, and build lasting emotional security. Whether you are newly together or have been in a committed relationship for years, couples therapy can provide the tools and understanding needed to create a healthy, secure, and loving connection.
Located in St. Charles, IL, we proudly serve couples in Geneva, Batavia, and surrounding Fox Valley communities who are seeking a deeper connection and effective solutions to relationship challenges.
Is Couples Therapy Right for You?
Many couples seek therapy for different reasons, including:
✅ Strengthening emotional intimacy and connection
✅ Improving communication and resolving misunderstandings
✅ Navigating conflicts and recurring relationship patterns
✅ Rebuilding trust after betrayals or emotional injuries
✅ Managing life transitions, such as marriage, parenthood, or career changes
✅ Addressing emotional distance or feelings of disconnection
If you and your partner are struggling with these challenges, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) can help.
Our Approach: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT)
At Soothing Connections Counseling, we take an attachment-based approach to couples therapy, specifically using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). This evidence-based model helps partners:
🔹 Identify and understand the deeper emotions driving conflicts
🔹 Recognize and break negative relationship cycles
🔹 Strengthen emotional safety and trust
🔹 Improve communication and express needs effectively
🔹 Foster deeper connection and intimacy
Through EFCT, I guide partners to recognize their roles within their relationship dynamic and develop the skills to navigate challenges—not only in sessions but also in daily life at home.
Building a Secure and Lasting Connection
Relationships require ongoing care and attention, and it’s my passion to help couples:
💙 Build connection – Deepen emotional understanding and intimacy
💙 Repair connection – Heal past wounds and strengthen trust
💙 Reconnect – Cultivate long-term emotional security and resilience
Your partner can be your greatest source of comfort and support—but that requires creating a safe and secure emotional foundation. My goal is to help you build that foundation so that your relationship can thrive.
In-Person Couples Therapy in St. Charles, IL
If you're looking for couples therapy near St. Charles, IL, I invite you to schedule a session at our conveniently located office.
I offer in-person sessions for couples in St. Charles, Geneva, Batavia, and surrounding areas, providing a compassionate and supportive space to work through relationship challenges.
Location: Soothing Connections Counseling, St. Charles, IL
Sessions: By appointment only
Have questions? Wondering if Couples Therapy is the right fit for you? Reach out today!
Take the Next Step
Relationships don’t have to stay stuck in conflict or disconnection. With Emotionally Focused Therapy, you and your partner can develop a deeper understanding, communicate effectively, and rebuild the closeness you desire.
Contact Soothing Connections Counseling today to schedule a session and take the first step toward a stronger, healthier relationship.
Couples Issues
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Communication
Conflict
Disconnection
Affairs
Escalation
Insecurity issues
Damaged trust
Ruptures
Repairs -
Anxious attachment
Avoidant attachment
Different attachment styles
Pursuing strategies
Withdrawing strategies
Building attachment security
Coregulation
Avoidance
Distancing -
Connection
Coregulation
Support
Communication
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy Sessions & What to Expect
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Session 1: Together
During our first session, both partners will attend.
The purpose of this session is first for both of you to get familiar with the office space, to begin building safety and comfort as we build our connection together, and to ask any questions you have.
If you’re not familiar with Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples yet, I will give you some background to understand my approach and the way we will work together.
I will help you understand each of our roles throughout therapy and how EFT often looks different than some other couples therapy and why I use this method.
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Session 2: One Partner
During the second session, only one partner will attend.
Most often it does not matter which partner goes first and can be a scheduling preference.
The purpose of this session is to learn the background of the partner attending, specifically I am prioritizing getting to gnow and understand your relational attachment history, and to further assess how best to support you in our sessions together.
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Session 3: Next Partner
During the third session, the other partner will attend.
The purpose of this session is to learn the background of the partner attending, specifically I am prioritizing getting to gnow and understand your relational attachment history, and to further assess how best to support you in our sessions together.
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Sessions 4-20+: Together
The remaining sessions will be attended together. Sessions will start only when both partners are present.
The purpose of these sessions is to continue to build understanding of the relationship, the moves each partner takes, and the impact of those moves on the other partner and the relationship.
We work together as a team to help the relationship heal and grow by deescalating, addressing core conflict patterns, identifying needs and longings, repairing as needed, creating new patterns, and building sustainable growth.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
What is EFT? What does EFT look like?
How does an EFT therapist work?
What is deescalation?
Creating Safety, Focusing in the Present, and Deepening Emotional Experiences.
Hold Me Tight Events:
https://iceeft.com/hold-me-tight-events/
Research:
https://iceeft.com/eft-research-3/
https://iceeft.com/eft-articles/
